I've heard the statistic that the US population is 49% men and 51% women. Gender/sexual identity politics aside, I can't help but feel like the odds are even less in our favor. When it comes to my age bracket, I'm pretty sure we're looking at more of a 40/60 split. At least, it seems that way sometimes.
To be fair, meeting men is easy. Meeting single, date-able men is something else. For every fantastic, independent, fun single woman in my circle of friends, I know... well, almost zero men who fit the same description. Maybe it's the circles I travel in, maybe it's my own quirks, but finding great guys to date just isn't easy.
My girlfriends and I are driven to do all sorts of things in attempting to meet the elusive date-able 30ish male. Volunteering for random causes, pursuing male-centric professional options, hitting up singles nights at places of worship (within one's religious group, so far), joining community athletic teams, and even <<shudder>> online dating.
If you've never tried online dating, consider yourself lucky. Each site has its own personality and rules, but they all take a lot of time and energy and usually lead to lackluster dates with people who can't carry on a conversation. But, there are the urban fables...the ones about people who actually found girlfriends or husbands on those sites. I wouldn't believe them if I didn't personally know two different married couples who had each met online. It can happen, and that's what most subscribers hold out hope for.
The latest site I've tried gives you percentages of how much they think you're going to like a guy. I've been messaged by everyone from 98%s to 24%s. Meanwhile, I'm just hoping that one of these figures gives me an edge up on that 51% ratio.
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